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Links and
Articles
Page Contents:
TCF Web sites: National web
site, Websites in various states, and International web sites.
Grief Support Web Sites: Various
support websites including SIDS, MISS, SPAN, Operation Angel and others
Bereaved Parents Wish List: Compiled by Diane Collins
TCF, Bay Area Chapter, Houston
National Children Memorial: A
proclamation by the President of the United States 1998
National Magazine: Information
on how to subscribe to the National Magazine.
Web Sites of Compassionate Friends
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National:
Headquarters for
The Compassionate Friends:
International:
International Web sites
Alabama:
Top
Mobile
Chapter
Arizona: Top
Phoenix
Chapter
Tucson
Chapter
California: Top
Contra
Costa County
Fort
Bragg Chapter
Orange
Coast Chapter
Marin
County Chapter/San Francisco Satellite
San
Diego Chapter
South
Bay / Los Angeles Chapter
South
Lake Tahoe Chapter
Verdugo
Hills Chapter
Delaware: Top
Lewes
Chapter
Florida: Top
Heart
of Florida Chapter
Orlando
Chapter
Georgia: Top
Atlanta Area Chapter
Southwest
Georgia
Idaho: Top
Boise Chapter
Illinois: Top
Indiana: Top
Bedford
Chapter
Bloomington
Chapter
Central
Indiana Chapter
Fort
Wayne Chapter
Lafayette
Chapter
Lake
Porter County Chapter
Southern
Indiana Chapter
Iowa: Top
Central Iowa Chapter
Waterloo-Ceder Falls Chapter
Kansas: Top
Sunflower
Chapter
Kentucky: Top
Bluegrass
Chapter
Nelson
County Chapter
Western
KY Chapter
Louisiana: Top
Baton
Rouge Chapter
Hammond Chapter
Houma Chapter
New Orleans Chapter
Maryland: Top
Delmarva
Chapter
Potomac
Chapter
St.
Mary's County Chapter
Southern
Maryland Chapter
Massachusetts: Top
Cape
Cod Chapter
Metrowest
Chapter
Michigan: Top
Flint
Chapter
Livonia
Chapter
Mid-Michigan
Chapter
Troy
Chapter
Minnesota: Top
Alexandria
Area Chapter
Mississippi: Top
Jackson
Chapter
Missouri: Top
Independence
Chapter
South Central Missouri Chapter
Nebraska: Top
Norfolk
Chapter
Northeast Nebraska Chapter
New Hampshire: Top
Monadnock County Chapter
New Jersey: Top
Atlantic
County Chapter
Camden County
Chapter
Bergen-Passaic Chapter
Central
New Jersey Chapter
Monmouth
County
Morris
Area Chapter
Ocean County Chapter
New York: Top
Albany
Chapter
Babylon
Chapter
Broome
County Chapter
Manhasset
Chapter
Manhattan
Chapter
Medford,
Long Island
Mid-Hudson
Valley
Oneonta
Region Chapter
Rockville
Centre Chapter
Rockland
County Chapter
North Carolina: Top
Fayetteville
Area Chapter
Wake County Chapter
Ohio: Top
Canfield
- Western Reserve Chapter
Cincinnati
Chapter
Columbus
- Central Ohio Chapter
Miami
County Chapter
Miami
Valley Chapter
Miami-Whitewater
Chapter
Tiffin
Chapter
Oregon: Top
Pacific
View Chapter-Lincoln City
Portland
Chapter
Southern Oregon Chapter
Salem Chapter
Pennsylvania: Top
Delaware
County Chapter
Pittsburgh
Chapter
South Carolina: Top
Lakelands
Chapter - Greenwood
South Dakota: Top
Sioux
Falls Chapter
Tennessee: Top
Clarksville Chapter
Nashville
Chapter
Upper
East Tennessee & Southwest Virginia Chapter
Texas: Top
Atlanta Chapter of
NE Texas
Brazosport
Chapter-Lake Jackson
Copperas
Grove Texas Chapter
Ft Worth Chapter
Lake Jackson Texas Chapter
Lubbock
Texas Chapter
Mid-Tex
Chapter
Southeast Texas Chapter
Sugarland-Southeast Hudson
Chapter
Utah:
Top
Salt Lake City
Virginia: Top
Arlington
Chapter
Central
Virginia Chapter
Fredericksburg
Chapter
Harrisonburg-Rockingham
Chapter
Piedmont
Chapter
Richmond
Chapter
SW
Virginia/Upper E Tennessee Chapter
Washington: Top
Eastside
Chapter at Evergreen
Seattle
Chapter
Wyoming: Top
Central
Wyoming Chapter
Wind River Chapter
International Chapter: Top
Cornwall
Ontario Chapter Ontario Canada
International Chapter Malta
Perth Australia Chapter Australia
Western
Australia Australia
TCF Queenland
Australia
Ouders an een overleden Kind
Dutch TCF
Les Amis Compatissant du Quebec
French Canadian

Other
Grief Support Groups: TOP
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Share Atlanta:........................................... |
For parents who have experienced miscarriage or neonatal
loss. |
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Alexey's Memorial-Page
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Golden tears of a grieving Father. |
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S.P.A.N........................................................ |
Suicide Prevention
Advocacy Network |
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Parents
of Suicides
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It
is for parents whose sons and daughters died from suicide. |
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Grieving
Parents
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Grieving
Parents support group |
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Grieving
Grandparents
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Grieving
Grandparents support group |
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SIDS
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Sudden Infant Death Syndrome and Other Infant Death |
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Grief
Healing
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Information
and support to those who are coping with the death of a loved one |
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The
Bereavement Journey
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An email
support group, also a place where people can come in and chat. |
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Tapestries of Hope
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Information
and support for each woman who is grieving the death of her mom or mother
figure. Located in south New Jersey. |
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Luvnmiss-memories........................................... |
This site is
dedicated to loved ones that have passed on. |

A Bereaved Parent's Wish
List TOP
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I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him back.
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I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name. My
child lived and was very important to me. I need to
hear he was important to you also.
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If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My
child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my
child, and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for
both.
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I wish you wouldn't "kill" my child again by removing his
pictures, artwork, or" other remembrances from your home.
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Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
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I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you; but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry,
but I wish you would let me talk about my child, my favorite topic of the
day.
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I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know
that my child's death pains you, too. I wish you would let me
know those things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big
hug.
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I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over in six months. These first months are traumatic for me, but I wish you
could understand that my grief will never be over. I will
suffer the death of my child until the day I die.
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I am working very hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will
always miss my child, and I will always grieve that he is dead.
I wish you wouldn't expect me "not think about it" or to "be
happy." Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate
yourself.
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I don't want to have a "pity party," but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
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I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling
miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
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When I say, "I'm doing okay," I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.
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I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming
sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm
quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
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Your advise to "take one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now.
I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour
at a time.
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Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to
get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet
place to spend time alone.
Compiled by Diane Collins
TCF, Bay Area Chapter, Houston

National
Children's Memorial Day TOP
December 11, 1998
NATIONAL CHILDREN'S MEMORIAL DAY, 1998
THE WHITE HOUSE
Office of the Press Secretary
For Immediate Release
December 11, 1998
NATIONAL CHILDREN'S MEMORIAL DAY, 1998
BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA
A PROCLAMATION
There is nothing more devastating to a family than the death of a child. Each year,
thousands of America's families face this tragedy, losing their children to illness,
injury or accident. Our whole society experiences this loss as well, for we are all
diminished by the death of every one of our young people, whose love, laughter, talents,
and achievements bring so much joy to our lives and so much promise to our future.
The holiday season is an especially painful time for parents who have lost a child, so it
is fitting that we set aside a special day during this month to acknowledge the grief of
these families and to pay tribute to the lives and memories of their children. On National
Children's Memorial Day, let us all reach out, whether as individuals or as members of
caring communities, to offer bereaved families the compassion, support, and understanding
they need to begin the process of healing. NOW, THEREFORE, I, WILLIAM J. CLINTON, President of the United States of America, by
virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, do
hereby proclaim December 13, 1998, as National Children's Memorial Day. I call upon the
American people to observe this day with appropriate programs and activities in
remembrance of the infants, children, teenagers, and young adults who have died and to
bring comfort to their families. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this eleventh day of December, in the year
of our Lord nineteen hundred and ninety-eight, and of the Independence of the United
States of America the two hundred and twenty-third.
WILLIAM J. CLINTON
30-30-30

Magazine of The Compassionate Friends
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Published Quarterly
$20 per year

To subscribe, write or fax the national office:
The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook IL 60522-3696
Phone: 630.990.0010
Fax: 630.990.0246

Background Music, "Heaven" by Bryan Adams
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