Links and Articles 

Page Contents:
                TCF Web sites:  National web site, Websites in various states, and International web sites.
                Grief Support Web Sites:  Various support websites including SIDS, MISS, SPAN, Operation Angel and others
                Bereaved Parents Wish List:  Compiled by Diane Collins TCF, Bay Area Chapter, Houston
                National Children Memorial: 
A proclamation by the President of the United States 1998
              National Magazine:  Information on how to subscribe to the National Magazine.                 

Web Sites of Compassionate Friends TOP

National: Headquarters for The Compassionate Friends:

Alabama: Top


Arizona: Top
Phoenix Chapter
Tucson Chapter

Contra Costa County
Verdugo Hills Chapter

Delaware: Top
Brandywine Chapter

Florida: Top

Georgia: Top
Atlanta Area Chapter


Illinois: Top
Illinois Chapter

Indiana: Top
Lafayette, IN Chapter

Sioux City Chapter

Kansas: Top

Kentucky: Top
Lexington KY Chapter

Western KY Chapter



Baltimore MD Chapter

Massachusetts-Connecticut Border Towns Chapter

Livonia Chapter


Jackson Mississippi Chapter

Independence Chapter


New Hampshire:

New Jersey:
Camden County Chapter

Mercer County Chapter
Ocean County Chapter

New York:
Medford, Long Island
Rockville Centre Chapter

North Carolina: Top
Iredell County Chapter

Canfield - Western Reserve Chapter
Central Ohio Chapter


Oregon: Top
Salem Oregon Chapter

Lehigh Valley Chapter

South Carolina:
Myrtle Beach Chapter

South Dakota:


Ft Worth Chapter



Virginia: Top
Piedmont Chapter

Eastside Washington Chapter

Seattle Chapter


Other Grief Support Sites: TOP

S.P.A.N Suicide Prevention Advocacy Network
Parents of Suicides This site is for parents whose sons and daughters died from suicide, requires registration with your e-mail address.
Grieving Parents  Grieving Parents support group, requires registration with your e-mail address.
Grieving Grandparents Grieving Grandparents support group, requires registration with your e-mail address.
SIDS Sudden Infant Death Syndrome and Other Infant Death
Grief Healing  Information and support to those who are  coping with the death of a loved one
The Bereavement Journey   
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An email support group, also a place where people can come in and chat.
Luvnmiss-memories This site is dedicated to loved ones that have passed on.
Recover from Grief A site dedicated to assisting parents with grief after the loss of a child (children).
Silent Grief This site is dedicated to families who have suffered loss through stillbirth, miscarriage & infant death.
Death of a Child A site dedicated to assisting parents with grief after the loss of a child (children).
The Unthinkable Grief A site dedicated to assisting parents and their marriage while suffering grief after the loss of a child (children).
Alive Alone A support group for the education of bereaved parents, whose only child or all children are deceased.
The Healing Place A site dedicated to parents' healing after the loss of a child or children.
A Place to Remember Uplifting support resources for those who have been touched by a crisis in pregnancy or the death of a baby.
AMEND AMEND stands for aiding Mothers and Fathers Experiencing Neonatal Death. Offering free counseling service to parents who have experienced the loss of an infant through miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death. Offers support and encouragement to parents having a normal grief reaction to the loss of their baby.
Open to Hope Information and support to support your marriage after the death of your child(ren).
Bereaved Parents of the USA A support organization for parents whose children have died.
Parents of Murdered Children, Inc. A support organization for parents whose children have been murdered.
Grief Watch Resources for bereaved families/

 A Bereaved Parent's Wish List  TOP

  1. I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him back.

  2. I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name.  My child lived and was very important to me.  I need to hear he was important to you also.

  3. If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me.  My child's death is the cause of my tears.  You have talked about my child, and you have allowed me to share my grief.  I thank you for both.

  4. I wish you wouldn't "kill" my child again by removing his pictures, artwork, or" other remembrances from your home.

  5. Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.

  6. I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you; but I also want you to hear about me.  I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child, my favorite topic of the day.

  7. I know that you think of and pray for me often.  I also know that my child's death pains you, too.  I wish you would let me know those things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.

  8. I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over in six months. These first months are traumatic for me,  but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over.  I will suffer the death of my child until the day I die.

  9. I am working very hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover.  I will always miss my child, and I will always grieve that he is dead.
    I wish you wouldn't expect me "not think about it" or to "be happy." Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.

  10. I don't want to have a "pity party," but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.

  11. I wish you understood how my life has shattered.  I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.

  12. When I say, "I'm doing okay," I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.

  13. I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected.  So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.

  14. Your advice to "take one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now.  I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.

  15. Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.

Compiled by Diane Collins
TCF, Bay Area Chapter, Houston

National Children's Memorial Day TOP

December 11, 1998

Office of the Press Secretary
For Immediate Release                                                                                                           December 11, 1998



There is nothing more devastating to a family than the death of a child. Each year, thousands of America's families face this tragedy, losing their children to illness, injury or accident. Our whole society experiences this loss as well, for we are all diminished by the death of every one of our young people, whose love, laughter, talents, and achievements bring so much joy to our lives and so much promise to our future.  The holiday season is an especially painful time for parents who have lost a child, so it is fitting that we set aside a special day during this month to acknowledge the grief of these families and to pay tribute to the lives and memories of their children. On National Children's Memorial Day, let us all reach out, whether as individuals or as members of caring communities, to offer bereaved families the compassion, support, and understanding they need to begin the process of healing.  NOW, THEREFORE, I, WILLIAM J. CLINTON, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim December 13, 1998, as National Children's Memorial Day. I call upon the American people to observe this day with appropriate programs and activities in remembrance of the infants, children, teenagers, and young adults who have died and to bring comfort to their families.  IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this eleventh day of December, in the year of our Lord nineteen hundred and ninety-eight, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and twenty-third.


Magazine of The Compassionate Friends TOP

Published Quarterly
$20 per year

To subscribe, write or fax the national office:
The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook IL 60522-3696
Phone: 630.990.0010
Fax: 630.990.0246


Background Music, "Heaven" by Bryan Adams

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